If you have found this page, we are pleased that you are visiting our site and interested in writing back to us about our thoughts on marriage. Here is a description of the kind of behavior we encourage and enforce on our site. We are entrepreneurs, so please understand that our advice is an expression of our opinions and not to be taken as marital advice offered by counselors and therapists.
1) Please think about the effect of your words when you decide to post a comment on our blog. Think "constructive" rather than "destructive." Our goal is to inspire the best possible relationship you can have with your spouse, and that means finding positive ways to solve nagging issues that might be occurring in your life. So, state the problem without cursing, hating or defaming your spouse, or sounding off without any desire to improve your marriage.
2) Please remember that we are people, too, not just a web site and give us your respect when you write to us. That doesn't mean you can't complain or disagree with us; it just means that we'd like to have a conversation rather than a shouting match. If you use language that is obscene, violent, homophobic, pornographic or sexually explicit, threatens assault, promotes racial or religious hatred, promotes the use of drugs, promotes theft or engaging in criminal activity, it will not be posted and distributed on our web site.
3) Please invest the time to write a thoughtful comment, including disagreeing with us, and we will be glad to invest the time to answer with a thoughtful reply, even though we may still not agree with you. We welcome different points of view, and we value feedback that grows our perspectives.
4) Please follow the rules for respecting intellectual property and avoid any activities that violate the rights of a third party by infringing on their copyrights, trademarks, patents, trade secrets or any other information governed by contract or proprietary rights. If you quote someone, be sure to do it accurately and give detailed information regarding your source. For example, if it is a book, give the title of the book and the author. If you're quoting from another blog, give the name of the blog and the web address. If you are doing more than referencing a resource, respect and copyright law demand that you first contact the author(s) for permission to use their work in your writing.
5) Please surprise us with ideas that stick to our topic and delight us with your innovation and creativity. If you surprise us with information that does not pertain to our theme or is not relevant to promoting positive and uplifting marriages, then we will surpise you by keeping your comments invisible through the "Delete" button.
6) Please follow the rules for how to act in a public forum and avoid any activities that lead to "spamming," "flooding," "flaming," or "trolling" when using this site.
7) Please honor another's right to privacy, especially your spouse's. You must not distribute another person's personal information of any kind unless you get their permission in writing, and you do not violate a confidentiality obligation you have with them.
8) Please be authentic in your writing. We all like to be flattered if it is heartfelt. If you wish to applaud something we write or what someone else writes, be specific with your praise. Your comments will help us improve our writing and speaking.
9) Please be respectful and dedicated to problem-solving when talking about ways to deal with the disagreements and conflicts that can arise in marriages. Avoid whining and partner bashing. In our forum, we will "listen" to your ideas and forge replies that focus on aligning the interests of your partner and you.
10) Please join us in our search for continuous improvement in Body, Mind and Spirit to maximize the benefits to ourselves and to our partners. Our web site and blog posts will explore all these areas and offer tips, strategies, discussions and videos that will encourage your personal and spiritual growth. We encourage you to respond with these same goals so that your words and ideas can provide a better outlook for marriage today and in the future.